Couples’ Enneagram Intensive: Building Understanding, Empathy, and Connection

Couples’ Enneagram Intensive: Building Understanding, Empathy, and Connection
A two-part series via Zoom

Saturdays April 22 & 29, 2023
9:00am – 4:00pm Central Time

This is a time for couples to learn with and from one another. We explore in depth each couple’s unique Enneatype combination. The group dynamic offers valuable insights and shared spaces, as each couple brings their unique mix into the circle. Some familiarity with the Enneagram and a basic understanding of your Enneatypes is recommended. Group size will be limited to 5 couples. When you register for Day 1 you will automatically be registered for Day 2 as well. The sessions will be led by Pam Sutherland, a spiritual director and Enneagram consultant, teacher, and coach. She and her husband Brian have been married for 30 years; they have four children and eleven grandchildren… so far.

Registration Deadline: April 14
Cost:$300 per couple
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Session Descriptions

Day 1 – Saturday, April 22: How we Share the Space Between Us                     

Individuals and couples deepen their empathy for each other’s inherent giftedness, natural intelligence, and struggles as we invite each person to speak from their unique Enneatype perspective. We explore in depth the patterns of thinking, behaving, and relating specific to each couple’s Enneatype mix, including the impact of wings and arrows. Together we consider what it looks like to love each other well in light of these combinations and movements.

Each couple will have approximately 2 hours of pre-session preparation before this session, including identifying their enneagram types if they haven’t already done so.

Day 2 – Saturday, April 29: How we Move in Understanding, Empathy, and Compassion

We examine more deeply the patterns that enhance and impede connection, including Enneatype-related communication styles,  and the ways we most often feel ‘missed’ or misunderstood. Building on the Day 1 content, couples Identify and explore opportunities for making intentional shifts to enhance connection and navigate their patterns of relating in more compassionate ways. Each couple will be invited to thoughtfully consider their vision for their shared journey forward.

Engaging with the Enneagram Instincts: A 4 Part Series

We invite you to engage with us this fall in this 4 part series focused on the Enneagram Instincts and Subtypes. This is a 4 part series, as they build upon each other. Suggested price for all four sessions is $150. If you miss a session, you will receive slides.  As always, if you cannot afford that, pay what you can.

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Session 1 – Introduction to the Instincts – Uncovering the Mystery of our Reactions
Wednesday, October 12, 2022
7:00 pm – 8:30 pm

Instincts operate at a level below our personalities, causing us to react in ways we’re not fully conscious of. We explore characteristics of all three instincts (Self-Preservation, Social Belonging, and Sexual/One-to-One), where and how we see them operating in ourselves, and how we can navigate this level more consciously.

Session 2 – From Instincts to Subtypes – Why Subtypes Matter
Wednesday, October 26, 2022
7:00 pm – 8:30 pm
We explore how the layering of the nine Enneatype patterns and the three Instinctual energies creates 27 different and unique Subtypes. The Subtypes provide a layer of clarity and specificity that explain much of the variety within Enneatypes, aid in Enneatype identification, and reveal specific opportunities for accessing more of our full selves.

Session 3 – Exploring our Instinctual Sequence – Invitation into Accessing More of Ourselves
Wednesday, November 16, 2022
7:00 pm – 8:30 pm
We dip back into the Instincts and consider how our Instinctual sequence informs how our specific Enneatype structure and patterns are expressed. We explore the invitations for accessing more of our full selves through integrating the hidden gifts of our less-dominant Instinctual energies.

Session 4 – Navigating the Instincts in Relationships with Empathy & Appreciation
Wednesday, November 30, 2022
7:00 pm – 8:30 pm
Instinctual sequences can provide just as much, and in some cases more, insight into the relational synergies and challenges we experience. We explore how our Instinctual sequences inform our relationships; the commonalities shared by people of different types with the same dominant Instinct; and what our invitations are into navigating our relationships with empathy and appreciation.